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Dealing with heartbreak and getting back to dating...

 

I have spoken with lots of people over the last few months, many of which are recently out of relationships. Both women and men…

Funny, everyone wants love, yet good relationships seem to evade so many of us…

I have a hunch. Not sure I am right, but still a hunch…

We all say our exes were toxic. Crazy. That we were codependent and that the ex was narcissistic. Can we really all be crazy? Narcissistic? Anyway…

After the relationship ends, most hop right back out there in the dating pool. Join Match.com. Bumble. Tinder. Whatever the dating app of the day is. Looking to fill a void inside. Something is missing, and we want to find it. Plus there are plenty of fish in the sea, right?

But the dating pool is a scary place. Deep and dangerous…

We get back in the next relationship, hoping this time it will be different. After all, a new guy/girl gives us new hope. A chance for something different. It was all the exes fault after all…

There is a problem with this however. The problem is we aren’t willing to do the difficult things. The scary things. To look within. To evaluate ourselves. To change. To grow…

What role did we play in the last relationship?

Usually there is work to be done within. Lots of work. A lifetime of bad habits and bad behaviors, and we are looking for someone else to make us happy…

That won’t happen, because happiness comes from inside. Until we are healthy and happy with who we are, we won’t attract that healthy happy relationship we all crave…

Again, that change has to start from within. With our thoughts. Our habits. Our behaviors…

But again, this is only a hunch…

Ken

 

 

Comment balloon 6 commentsKen Tracy • November 10 2019 12:19AM
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