Ken's Naperville Real Estate Blog : Dealing with Alzheimer's and facing the day with love in Naperville...

Dealing with Alzheimer's and facing the day with love in Naperville...

Good morning!

I woke this morning to thoughts of my Mom…

As some of you know, my Mom has been struggling with Alzheimer’s for the last 8 years…

Originally I didn’t understand what was happening when her symptoms started appearing…

She had always been so smart. Intuitive. Full of love for her children and her grandchildren…

Then one day I got a confusing call from Mom. She had been babysitting my daughters, and something had happened…

I rushed to her house to find an ambulance out front, with Mom inside. She seemed fine, so I went into the house and found a police officer holding my little girl Morgie, while my daughter Erin the was standing next to them crying…

Apparently Mom had taken them on a walk. She must have gotten confused. Frightened. So when she got home, she called 911. Hence the ambulance and the police officer…

She never really explained to me what had happened… 

Always a proud person, Mom was probably embarrassed and didn’t want me to think even for a second that she wasn’t able to watch over my daughters who she loved so much…

That makes me sad.

Her symptoms grew over the years. She would ask the same questions repeatedly. She would get lost easily. She would get confused and frightened easily…

I am ashamed to admit that some of her issues caused me frustration. Sometimes even anger…

I too was probably confused and frightened…

As Mom’s health declined, she and my Dad moved into my sister’s home near Rockford. She has been able to spend the last several years in a loving home, which has been a blessing for me and given me some amount of peace…

Yesterday, my sister sent me a text, “Hi, Ken, Mom has been having a rough go lately…” 

So, filled with emotion, I drove out to Rockford to see Mom…

She is not doing real well right now. She is not eating. Sleeping most of the time, she spends her day drifting in and out of consciousness. Her body is shutting down, just as her mind started to several years ago…

Fortunately, she is still surrounded by love and tenderness…

So, today is a day I am choosing to live with love in my heart…

Love for the people in Mom’s life that are taking care of her in her final days…

Love for the people I am fortunate to have in my life. Love for my family. Love for the stranger. Love for the friend…

But most of all, love for Mom…

Ken

Comment balloon 8 commentsKen Tracy • November 22 2019 12:50PM

Comments

Good morning Ken. So sad to hear. So tough to deal with. The best to you and your family as you go through this.

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) 4 months ago

I am so sorry to hear of your Mom's condition...know that you are all doing tehe very best you can for her even if she appears not to know it. Take care of each other and yourself during this time...our thoughts of peace and healing are with you.

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 4 months ago

Hello Ken - the immediate initial impact of Alzheimer's for the person involved as well as for those who love/care about them makes for particularly painful times.  Sending strength in your direction.  

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 4 months ago

Ken, my Mother had dementia and I totally understand. It is heartbreaking to watch these diseases take control of our loved ones minds. To watch intelligent people who don't even know what a television is. Just know that when they pass, they will not be confused by what their mind has been telling them.

Posted by faye schubert, Living the Branson Lake Life 4 months ago

Very tough, Ken. Alzheimer's is a cruel, frightening disease for all touched by it.

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) 4 months ago

Hi Ken,
This is such a difficult challenge for the families. Your Mom is so fortunate to have a loving family that is taking care of her in the best way possible. 

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) 4 months ago

We went through this with my father last year. He lived with us too and was surrounded by his family when he died.  Remember those wonderful years with your mother and cherish them. Your mom is lucky to have you all.  And filling your heart with love is always the best way to deal with any challenging situation. Sending you love, peace, and healing. D 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) 4 months ago

It's not easy dealing with a parent with alzeimers, I know. My Dad suffered with it for about 15 years before he passed. We as well didn't quite know what to think or do until it became apparent that something different had to be done for him. Bless you and your family.... my prayers and thoughts to all of you.

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten Broker, CRB, CRS, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart International) 4 months ago

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